I get it, put on a strong face and just get through it. This
works for certain areas such as knowledge. Like, I have no idea what I am doing at this new job or task, but I will fake it until I make it. That works. But, that saying doesn’t always
work, and it definitely isn’t always healthy, especially when it comes to
relationships.
People can SENSE when you are faking an emotional aspect to
a relationship, there are scientific reasons as to why. But I am not a
scientist by any meaning of the definition. However, you know what I am talking
about. People can just TELL you aren’t being genuine, they might not be able to
tell right off, but it will catch up to you and be off-putting (the opposite of what you wanted, right?)
You don’t need to entertain these people, there is plenty of
entertainment elsewhere. And that is, essentially, what you are doing when you put on your mask to please others. There is no other ‘you’ out there, there is nothing
more impressive than someone unashamed or unafraid to be themselves.
One thing that a friend recently pointed out to me was that I
have a lot of confidence and she wishes she could be like me. And I do, but I haven’t
always. My confidence came from getting to know myself, loving her, nourishing
her and being TRUE to her.
When you become true to yourself you will find that most, if
not all, of your insecurities will fall away and you will be less scared to
show your true self to the world. That will in turn lead to much deeper and
more meaningful relationships (romantic and otherwise) and in the long run, that’s
what counts.
XOX,
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