Habits of Genuine People

I do love to research. If I could afford it, which I cannot, I would never leave university. I love to learn and grow. This task I have challenged myself to, it requires research. I need to understand other’s perspectives of the words I have chosen.

I easily found this article on Psychology Today (source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201503/the-7-habits-truly-genuine-people)

 

7 Habits of Truly Genuine People

Now, I consider(ed) myself to be a very real person. Down to earth, not fake. And then I read these 7 habits…

1. Genuine people speak their mind. I do speak my mind, but it is also the manner in which you do it. Sometimes, my tongue is too sharp. I must work on being able to defend my viewpoint without getting snarky.
2. Genuine people respond to internal expectations, not external ones. Here, I give myself a mental checkmark. I do expect A LOT from myself, and it doesn’t sway me in any direction what anyone else expects from me. I hold myself to the highest standard because I know what I am capable (and not capable) of.
3. Genuine people are not threatened by failure. – hmm, something else I need to work on. While I wouldn’t say I am afraid to do things in fear of failure, I do sometimes feel a crippling dread when I begin (or want to begin) something new.
4. Genuine people can admit their faults. Now, this one I became better at only after I sought therapy for my anger. I held onto my faults and shoved them down and hid them until it was too late for someone to be caught by my harsh words. I give myself a mental checkmark for this one because I can now voice my faults without thinking any less of me. I know my strengths, as well.
5. Genuine people forge their own paths. Mental checkmark, while I do get inspiration and ideas from others, and I don’t think I would be nearly as creative or productive without other beautiful souls to feed off of, I do forge my own way because I know what will work for me.
6. Genuine people are not judgmental of others. Embracing individuality. I admit it, I struggle with this. I always have. I am a very “my way or the highway” type of personality. I must work on this. Being so active in the Fit Girls Guide community has actually made me embrace individuality a lot more. SO many beauty souls that you don’t get to experience if you shut them out. I want to quiet that voice in my head that tries to reject someone based on looks.
7. Finally, genuine people have solid self-esteem. I give myself a checkmark for this one, I think the first step in not judging others, and accepting them, is so be sure of yourself. Know who you are, love who you are. This was the greatest and hardest journey of my life, learning to love myself. It was VERY painful, but on the other side, it is beautiful and full of happiness and joy.

 

 

I am genuine, but it looks like I have some work to do, yea? Speaking my mind from a place of love, learning to accept individuality at face value, not being threatened by failure when embarking on a new adventure (or letting the fear of failure or disappointment stop be from even taking step 1)

 

Thanks for being here with me,