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Progress Report!

Since speaking “aloud” about being genuine and pinpointing areas that needed work, I have opened up to some trusted friends and it felt like a weight was lifted, a weight that never should have been there in the first place.

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Remember, authenticity is not something you should strive to emulate. Being authentic is just being YOU. Drop the acts, drop the masks, just be yourself. And beyond that, authenticity is being true to yourself. Do what feels right.

The one place I find it incredibly difficult to be genuine, so difficult it feels like climbing up Everest, is the workplace. Office politics rule and being a genuine person drools. The more fake you can be, the more likely you are to get a raise. Every day I come into the office looking to shake that up, just a little. I think it is 100% possible to be a REAL person and a business woman AT THE SAME TIME. Mind blowing? It seems to be.

Your boss or peers may pressure you to put on a mask, and keep it on, while at work. Either to gain their respect, monetary gain or even to be eligible for promotion. While it would be EASY to put on a mask and cover up who you really are, that would only make you miserable while at work. Hiding yourself for 8 hours a day? C’mon. If they cannot respect you and value YOU, for exactly who you are and the moral compass you provide, then it’s time to turn your sights elsewhere. I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s true.

I do find that my own workplace is overrun with insincerity and office politics. I keep my head down but I make sure I quip and laugh and joke just as I would anywhere else. A part of who I am is a fiercely loyal and driven person. I like to work hard, I like to challenge myself, it’s just woven into who I am. It feels true to me, and it feels right. But it also feels right to cut up and not be so stuffy and professional all the time, to mention an incident that I didn’t feel was right, to make a joke. If they can’t take what they see as your ‘bad’ with your good, they don’t deserve you at all.

 

 

 

“No matter where you are in life, you'll save a lot of time by not worrying too much about what other people think about you. The earlier in your life that you can learn that, the easier the rest of it will be.”

 

 “It just means that your talents lie elsewhere, so take the opportunity to seek out what you are good at, and find a place where you can flourish. Once you do, you’re going to kill it.”

 

If you haven’t read Girlboss, go do that. RIGHT NOW.